Misery as a lifestyle

Self-depreciation, negative talk, feelings of inadequacy, guilt, frustration are all feelings I have personally experienced. In a life traditionally lived, these feelings are inevitable.
Society has been designed to compare people with each other. Create an artificial standard, invoke these previously mentioned emotions, and then offer a five-step plan or an opportunity to pay for a coach or therapist to talk about and attempt to fix these emotions. Its FOMO at its highest level.

In reality, there is no problem to begin with. The emotions, while strong, were fleeting. There is no solution, plan or blueprint needed to solve these non-problems.

Why is it that we hang on to misery? Why is it that we hang on to the feelings of inadequacy, shame, and guilt? Because they prevent us from examining the matter directly. They prevent us from seeing the true depths of our problems.
They are convenient. After all, it’s easier to say, oh, life sucks, the world is unfair, and then to continue our life while feeling bad.
To put a stop to this, to sit on the ground, turn off all distractions, close one’s eyes and examine the origin of the feeling, is very painful. It’s akin to surgery without anesthesia. After all, it hurts to examine the lies we tell ourselves every day.
That pain is deep in our chest, when we realize all the time we wasted and all the opportunities we let slip by to protect our ego, to feel good, or not to feel bad.

Misery is a coping method not to self-examine. It’s a coping method that prevents one from transforming their life. It’s a useful tool to gain external sympathy and a little dopamine bump. Once understood, a life of misery naturally feels empty. It naturally lacks the depth that one can achieve by looking deep into the heart of the problem at hand.